Comments on: They Forget I’m Asian http://korea.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/they-forget-i-m-asian Korea adoption news, information and firsthand accounts by those who have been there. Sat, 28 Jan 2012 05:55:39 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Nancy Spoolstra http://korea.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/they-forget-i-m-asian/comment-page-1#comment-261 Nancy Spoolstra Fri, 16 Jun 2006 05:50:10 +0000 http://korea-adopti.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/06/15/they-forget-i-m-asian#comment-261 I'm going through Hannah's almost weekly comments about how much she wishes she looked like me and like Laura, my bio daughter. I validate her feelings as best I can. I grieve for what I can't fix for her. Got any words of wisdom for me, Mo? I’m going through Hannah’s almost weekly comments about how much she wishes she looked like me and like Laura, my bio daughter. I validate her feelings as best I can. I grieve for what I can’t fix for her. Got any words of wisdom for me, Mo?

]]> By: Karianne http://korea.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/they-forget-i-m-asian/comment-page-1#comment-260 Karianne Thu, 15 Jun 2006 19:29:37 +0000 http://korea-adopti.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/06/15/they-forget-i-m-asian#comment-260 I'm continually having to remind myself that I didn't give birth to my adopted son. Although our skin tones are different, he looks just like my nephews. Sometimes it just hits me in the face when I try to remember his birth story. "Oh yeah, I don't know his birth story!" It is a very odd feeling.<br /> <br /> On the other hand, I really identified with my Pacific Islander heritage and would always mark it in the "race" box. I found out later that my brother and sister would mark 'Caucasian'. Although we were all born to the same mom and dad and raised in the same house, we viewed our ethnicity differently. I still wonder why. I’m continually having to remind myself that I didn’t give birth to my adopted son. Although our skin tones are different, he looks just like my nephews. Sometimes it just hits me in the face when I try to remember his birth story. “Oh yeah, I don’t know his birth story!” It is a very odd feeling.

On the other hand, I really identified with my Pacific Islander heritage and would always mark it in the “race” box. I found out later that my brother and sister would mark ‘Caucasian’. Although we were all born to the same mom and dad and raised in the same house, we viewed our ethnicity differently. I still wonder why.

]]> By: Sandra Hanks Benoiton http://korea.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/they-forget-i-m-asian/comment-page-1#comment-259 Sandra Hanks Benoiton Thu, 15 Jun 2006 18:25:48 +0000 http://korea-adopti.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/06/15/they-forget-i-m-asian#comment-259 Growing up in a multi-ethnic family, I was frequently taken by surprise when people would comment on the "Chinese" people around me. <br /> <br /> Not that I wasn't aware that my stepmom and sisters were Chinese...I was aware, and appreciated their sometimes 'exotic' influence in my life.<br /> <br /> It was more that, most of the time, it was such a non-factor that I forgot that any of those influences could be noticed by a casual observer. Growing up in a multi-ethnic family, I was frequently taken by surprise when people would comment on the “Chinese” people around me.

Not that I wasn’t aware that my stepmom and sisters were Chinese…I was aware, and appreciated their sometimes ‘exotic’ influence in my life.

It was more that, most of the time, it was such a non-factor that I forgot that any of those influences could be noticed by a casual observer.

]]> By: mowho33 http://korea.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/they-forget-i-m-asian/comment-page-1#comment-258 mowho33 Thu, 15 Jun 2006 18:18:38 +0000 http://korea-adopti.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/06/15/they-forget-i-m-asian#comment-258 I think what you wrote is a kind of testimonial for living in a multi-cultural, blended society. i have always wondered whether a racist person might become less racist if he really got to know several people of a the race that he is prejudiced against. maybe we wouldn't have all the wars and hatred that we now have. we would see each other as just people not categories. having said that i do hope my adopted korean son embraces all things korean and identifies with being a korean-canadian, not just canadian (as i am). GO REDS! I think what you wrote is a kind of testimonial for living in a multi-cultural, blended society. i have always wondered whether a racist person might become less racist if he really got to know several people of a the race that he is prejudiced against. maybe we wouldn’t have all the wars and hatred that we now have. we would see each other as just people not categories. having said that i do hope my adopted korean son embraces all things korean and identifies with being a korean-canadian, not just canadian (as i am). GO REDS!

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