My son is upstairs putting a puzzle together. He loves puzzles and this one happens to be a puzzle of vehicles (cars, planes, trains, etc…). I would be right there with him if it wasn’t for the fact that I’ve already put this same puzzle together with him at least a dozen times in the last thirty minutes. No one will ever be able to tell me that he’s not focused.

So, I left my son with his father so that he could put the puzzle together for the thirteenth time. My husband does not mind. He’s watching the third or fourth football game of the day. I can’t wait until January is over and I have a short respite from touch downs and intercepted passes.

I’ve resolved to make sure my son has a better understanding of his adoption story in 2007. We’ve told him about it, but we’ve been a little vague up to this point. Until now, he really wasn’t old enough to understand and, quite frankly, he’ll only get a small part of it now. Because my son and I are both Korean adoptees, I want to make sure that he always knows that he’s adopted. I don’t want any surprises down the road. So, I figure I’ll start as early as possible.

I spent part of the holiday season trying to explain to him about being Korean. I told him that I am Korean, he is Korean and that his aunt is Korean. If you ask him if he is Korean, he’ll tell you yes. If you ask him if Daddy is Korean, he’ll tell you no. I’m not sure how much of this that he actually picked up and how much is just rote memorization, but it’s a start.

What I really need to do is finish his personal adoption book so that I can read it to him for a bedtime story. Finish is really a loose term for what I need to do. I think “start it” would be a better way to phrase it. He’s only been here two and a half years. Starting it is probably a pretty good idea. Have I mentioned that I’m a procrastinator?

Okay, so here’s a few of my adoption resolutions:

1. Finish my son’s adoption book.
2. Remember to work adoption into what we learn every day.
3. Let him look at pictures of his arrival day and explain what we were doing.
4. Be very patient when the first three things don’t work out quite the way I planned.

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