They are talking about six to nine inches of snow in the next few days. When I hear that, I start thinking about nesting – finding warms places in my house where I can cuddle with my family under blankets. When I nest, I tend to have time to think. As I've mentioned before, this often a dangerous thing.

When parents share their adoption experience, you mostly hear about the good parts. With Korean adoption, parents talk about the happy moments. I remember my son’s arrival day. I remember her first smile. I remember the day the judge said we were a family. Everyone is hesitant to remember the not-so-happy times. On the message boards, when someone starts a topic that is less than euphoric, there is generally a shadow of guilt or apology in the writing.

Generally, the other posters jump right in the reassure the person that they are not alone, but it’s disturbing that so many people feel that they are alone. A lot of it is that our culture accentuates the positive and vilifies the negative. Like in all situations, too much of the negative can be detrimental to everyone’s health, but there is room for a little negative in everyone’s life. I think it’s healthy.

So, the next few posts are going to be some of my thoughts on emotions – from the point of view of an adoptee/mother of an adoptee.

Part 2 – Coming Tomorrow

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