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Though we’ve decided to adopt again, we’ve been rather hesitant about broadcasting the decision to the rest of our family. We told my parents, but that’s different. My parents understand the process – the waiting, the delays, the endless paperwork. A lot of our family and friends have a hard time understanding the time that it takes to adopt.

This holiday has brought a lot more questions. My son is three and it seems as if many think that’s long enough to wait for a second. Though I have no plans to wait much longer, the impish side of me sometimes points out to people that there are eight and a half years between me and my sister. Most make little “tsking” sounds and give me worried looks. I’ve often commented about this viscous series of events…

When you are single, everyone wants you to be married.

When you are married, everyone wants you to have a child.

When you have a child, everyone wants you to have another.

My husband and I did have certain criteria that made it necessary to wait a little longer. I didn’t want two children in diapers and I am hoping that my son will be old enough at the second child’s arrival not to regress too badly. Even if we adopt a toddler as our second child, I have no way of knowing what stage they will be at. Though I considered it when my son arrived, I am not cut out to be a stay-at-home mom. My son needs to be heading towards public school before the second child arrives. The daycare costs would be too high with two.

Some tell me that I think too much and that I should go with the flow. “If you let it happen,” someone told me. “You’ll make it all work in the end.”

There are sometimes that I wish I could just go with the flow. It’s honestly not in our nature. My husband and I have a tendency to analyze and talk things over for long periods of time and then suddenly we’re ready. When we’re really ready, we tend to make thing happen very quickly.

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