Generally, when you see racism is a movie it’s pretty one-sided. You either see a whole bunch of stereotypes about one group or you see the bad White people. I watched a movie last night that showed racism a whole different way.

When it came out, the movie “Crash” made a big splash. I really don’t like going to the movies so I didn’t see it then. We rented it this week-end and I saw what all the buzz was about.

Anyone who says that racism is a thing of the past should watch this movie. It upsets some people to watch things like... more

My parents, at my request, bought my son a doll. At school, he likes the dolls because he pretends like he’s a parent. I wanted him to have a doll at home. When I mention this, there is shock and horror in the land. The conversations have been going like this:

“You bought your son a doll?”

“Yep.”

“But he’s a boy.”

“Yep. And it has the cutest little pink outfit.”

“Oh.”

Here’s the truth. I’ve found the doll to be a very useful parenting tool. In my household, my husband and I are equal partners in parenting. There is no reason for my son to think that taking care of a baby is a mommy’s job and not a daddy’s job.... more

This falls into the random parenting ramble category. I feel like I just got home and I’m flying back down to North Carolina on Monday. This should be the last time for awhile. We finally hired a new HR representative for North Carolina so I probably won’t have a reason to go back. Yipee. It’s not that I don’t like North Carolina, it’s just so much nicer to be at home.

We are trying to potty train my son. He shows interest in potty training, but we don’t have the follow through. He’s only 2 ½ so I’m not too concerned yet, but it would be so nice.

My niece who turned two this month is already potty trained, but she has two older siblings. My son showed interest in potty... more

When my son was a baby, we had some bedtime mistakes at first. I never liked to hear him scream, so I’d rock him to sleep before I put him down and then rocked him again when he woke up in the middle of the night.

After a few months, we realized that this was not going to work for the long term. Sometimes, we were up until eleven o’clock and the up again at 2:00 in the morning. It had become a habit for him because we allowed it to happen. We tried a method that I read about that eased him into a sleep schedule that allowed him to fall asleep... more

Yesterday was my cousin's wedding. She had an outdoor wedding so we were so lucky that the rain decided to pass over us in time for everything to dry out. It was a little hot at first, but as the sun started to set and a breeze blew across the water...it was a nice evening.

The wedding was out our family property that everyone calls Camp Lloyd or The Lake. It's not really a lake. It's a pond and it's not much of a camp - there is one small structure for picnics if it rains and a swing set that is so old you can't tell what color the poles used to be. We have a row boat, two canoes and a paddle boat.

My cousin L did a wonderful job of making the property look like a party.... more

Well, it’s official. I talked to my son last night and my husband asked him, “Where is Mommy?” and he responded, “In airplane, in Carowina.” So, he does indeed think that I am flying aimlessly around in an airplane in North Carolina. He was very excited to tell me that they had pizza for dinner and then he told me that the “Googles not sleeping. Want Googles.”

The “Googles” are actually “The Wiggles” in two-year old speak. I actually think that he can pronounce it correctly now, but he just doesn’t want to. We pretty much limit his television watching to the week-ends. He watches “The Wiggles” in the morning on Saturday and Sunday around 6am when his parents are too tired to... more

My friend had a little boy yesterday morning - another child to add to our mix. That makes seven children and one on the way in a month. When the eighth child comes in we’ll be evenly matched and since two of the couples in my group only have one child each, we’re sure to be outnumbered within the next few years. Things could get interesting then.

I won’t be able to see the new baby for a little while. She won’t really be up to visitors next week and then I’m off to North Carolina. I get back from North Carolina and literally jump in the car to go to Ohio for my cousin’s wedding. So, maybe that next week-end I’ll be able to go see the baby. With my luck, she’ll be busy.

It’s... more

The daycare called yesterday. With caller-id, I know who they are before I pick up. I always cringe a little before I pick it up. It could be simple. It could be complicated.

Sometimes when they call, he’s bumped his head or gotten a scrape on the playground. These are simple calls. In fact, generally I don’t want to know about them unless they’re going to tell me he’s being rushed to the emergency room. He’s two and a half and a boy…he’s going to get bumps and scrapes. I understand liabilities so I don’t complain when they call – usually I just sigh with relief... more

I think that I over think. Huh! Yes, there is a logical twist to that statement. How many times do we contemplate what other people are thinking when, in actuality, they aren’t thinking about us at all. It’s that egocentric part of us that forgets every once in awhile that we aren’t the only family in the universe.

We all went out to lunch on Sunday – myself, my parents, my husband, my son, my sister and her boyfriend. My husband and my sister’s boyfriend don’t really look that much alike (except they do have similar builds) and they look nothing like my parents, but I was thinking…everyone... more

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